You may wonder why we're writing this… and what it has to do with relationships?

Good question.  It has to do with our relationship with the world we live in.

The September Campaign Trailer - www.borninseptember.org from charity: water on Vimeo.

One of the most empowering and wonderful needs we have as humans is the need to contribute, to make a difference and really matter.

The dream is to provide clean, healthy drinking water for everybody in an Ethiopian village.  It will take $4,000 US to drill the well and finish it.  And it will provide the village with drinking water for years and years to come.

September is Scott Harrison’s birthday month – he’s the founder of charity: water.  And so they are asking for all people with birthdays in September to join the initiative to bring clean water to other people in the world.

Paul’s birthday isn’t until February but he would enjoy accepting gifts in the form of donations now.  He’s 54 years old and so he’s asking for $54.  However, anything you can send will help make this a reality.

http://www.charitywater.org/birthdays/fundraiser/sept/view/1870

Join us in creating abundance.  Be a part of this great project: CLEAN, HEALTHY WATER FOR EVERYONE.

More than 1.1 billion people in the world today don't have the most basic thing: clean water to drink.  Over 4,500 kids die each day from water-related disease.

One hundred percent of the money raised by charity: water will go directly to building freshwater wells, which will be proved with GPS coordinates and photos on Google Earth.

 http://www.charitywater.org/birthdays/fundraiser/sept/view/1870

I was once told that the normal outcome of most communication is misunderstanding…
aboveis a case in point…

To avoid this type of un-nessicary upset and hurt feelings, make sure to check out our
5 Most Common Relationship-Wrecking Communication Mistakes ebook…

 

Until next time,

Paul Sterling
Your Relationship Coach

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Here are two very, very different videos… about the power of love. Bring the tissues cause they will bring tears, the kind that come when we see the power of the heart… enjoy!

 

I want to tell you about some great new reading material that will support you and re-kindle your inspiration as you work on having the relationship of your dreams.

It’s a new book by Kurek Ashley, one of Australia’s hottest motivational speakers, called How Would Love Respond?

I’m reading it right now – and really enjoying it.  He begins with a description of an incident in his life while he was working as a stuntman on a Rambo film.  It’s fascinating reading!  And then he goes into how that incident changed his life and what he learned from it.

Even though the principals are all the same (acknowledging abundance, choosing our life’s path, etc.) he’s got a totally new way of expressing it – some new twists and turns on the subject.  I've been kind of skimming over some parts of it… but I'm LOVING Chapter 8 on energy and relationships.

As you move along your path toward creating the relationship of your dreams, you’ll want to be reading supportive literature like this.

http://www.magicrelationship.com/kurekrecommend

"Kurek you are truly the embodiment of the word 'outstanding" –ANTHONY ROBBINS, motivational speaker

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"I knew in my heart that with Kurek's help, I could win gold in the beach volleyball on Bondi Beach, Australia. His enthusiasm, love, passion and positivity is contagious and infectious. How Would Love Respond? addresses how to deal with fear, doubt, self-esteem and anything else that stands in your way to achieve everything you have ever dreamed of. It is a must-read for anybody that has a dream."–NATALIE COOK, Olympic Gold Medalist, Sydney 2000, Beach Volleyball

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'How Would Love Respond' became an International Bestseller in its first week of launch, reaching
No.1 Amazon Mover & Shaker

No.4 Barnes and Noble Self Improvement

No.8 Amazon Hot New Release

No. 7 Bestseller Barnes and Noble

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"You can never be too kind or too fair. This warm, inspiring book shows you how to practice love in every experience to achieve real peace and ultimate joy."— BRIAN TRACY, International, speaker, author and consultant on sales and entrepreneurship

  

 

Paul Sterling… a Relationship Coach will be teaching the Loving Relationship Bootcamp with Kristin Denton.

See You Soon,

Paul

PS Make sure to get your copy of our Outrageous Relationship Roadmap Quiz…

http://www.magicrelationship.com/askbootcamp

 

 

Get your Relationship Roadmap here! Take this eye-opening, heart-starting, in-depth, 7-page relationship quiz with your lover… or alone.

To get a free copy of the Relationship Roadmap 7-Page Quiz… just click here…

http://www.magicrelationship.com/askbootcamp

With Passion, Purpose and Possibility, Paul Sterling

 

Yahoo… it is finally ready… we hope! Check out our new Relationship Questionnaire and let us know how you like it.  You get brownie points if you find spelling or grammar errors, but you get major relationship points if take the Bootcamp Training and apply what you learn!

The qustionnaire is a bonus for people who put their name on the Prioirty List for the Loving Relationship Bootcamp.

If you want to know more about the Bootcamp and the Priority List, go to

http://www.magicrelationship.com/askbootcamp

There is limited space and we are only accepting people to the Bootcamp after we review their questionnaire, so put your name on the priority list NOW at….

http://www.magicrelationship.com/askbootcamp

With Passion, Purpose and Possiblity,

Paul Sterling
 

 Steven asks:

 “
How do I handle it when my wife breaks the "rules" it seems trying to implement anything she keeps twisting the topic to something else, making things my fault, ultimately blaming everything on me, but stating she doesn’t do what she is doing. I'm working on this alone. My wife is "done" and unwilling to try anything, she left so we are separated but she hasn’t asked for a divorce. I want to save us, I feel she's killing me for trying to.“

The important thing to remember in a situation like this is that you’re trying to connect to the other person’s feelings and needs – always the feelings and needs from the 4 Step Communication formula  – no matter what they say to throw you off.

Using the Magic Relationship Method takes a lot patience and persistence.  It requires stepping back from a situation and the words being directed toward you so that you can see the overall situation. 

When your wife turns the discussion back to how wrong you are, ask her, “Are you feeling ___ because you’re needing ___.”  As you’re learning the 4 Step Communication Formula, you’ll probably have to keep your lists of the feelings and needs right in front of you during one of these conversations.  It’s difficult to remember all of the feelings and needs AND keep your perspective at the same time.  Here’s a link to the lists – look at the right hand column of the page:  http://www.magicrelationship.com/articles.htm .

I’d like to give you some empathy for the pain you must be in around this situation.  You say “I feel she’s killing me for trying to work on the relationship.”  What is the true feeling here?  What you’ve given is a thought – that she’s trying to kill you.  I’m wondering if you’re feeling some anxiety, disappointment or frustration?  Do any of those hit home for you?

And then I’m wondering if — around your efforts to save the relationship – you’re needing understanding, acknowledgement and maybe some appreciation for how hard you’re trying?