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The Turning Point – Relationship Rebuilding Retreat

Paul — Wed, 27 May 2009 18:32:54 +0000

Just got the great news from the twins
(more about them later)…

They have cleared the calender for the weekend
of July 17-18-19 at Gold Lake Spa and asked me
to come up and teach a weekend relationship
retreat.

Why should you care – this could be your chance to
turn your relationship around and get it back on track.

(see case study below from past participant.)

The Turning Point – A Relationship Rebuilding Retreat
in the Heart of the Colorado Rockies (35 miles from
Boulder CO.)

Now this is not for everyone, there is the cost of travel
and the course itself will be somewhere between $1,295
to $1,595 per couple…

The great part is the price will include food and
accommodations – the tough part is we only have
room for 21 couples and I am sending this info out
to 6,380 people this week.

It will fill up fast.

That’s all for now – many more details to come…
but if you are interested – please get on the early
notice list - you will be the first to get access to
the registration application (yes you have to apply
for this event) when we make it available.

Click here to get on this no obligation-early notice
email list….

http://www.magicrelationship.net/turningpoint.htm

May Your Relationship Dreams Come True,

Paul Sterling
Your Relationship Coach

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PS:Let me tell you a story.

Last December, a
young and beautiful couple came to one of
my relationship workshops. They loved each
other very much…

But here’s where the story gets weird.

You see, even though the loved each
other, their situation is hopeless. This
couple had tried everything and the
situation just got worse. No matter how
hard they tried, their relationship
problems just got recycled rather than
resolved.

They had done their best, but nothing
changed. And… there was nothing they could
do about it. They felt helpless, hopeless,
hurt, frustrated and disappointed.

It wasn’t fair, they had tried so hard
and loved each other so much and still, it
looked like it was going to end in a
painful divorce.

Their Communication often ended up with
misunderstandings… misunderstandings that
led to arguments… arguments that eventually
ended up with the silent treatment.

And both of them ended up walking around
on egg shells – avoiding each other and
avoiding the issues…

Henry and Velina showed up at the
workshop feeling pretty overwhelmed and
hopeless. They even announced on the first
day of the workshop that they were going to
break up.

The only reason they were there
was to be learn how to communicate better
through the separation.

Over the course of the weekend, Henry and
Velina learned new communication tools and
worked hard improve their skills.

They practiced like crazy. There were tears and
upsets and heart-to-heart talks and
breakthroughs. And by the end of the
weekend they were communicating much more
openly and honestly about their individual
feelings and needs.

They went home and I didn’t hear from
them for a while. And then one day I got
this email from Velina:

Subject: Good news

I just wanted to pass on to you the good
news. Henry and I have renewed our vows to
each other and reunited in marriage. We are
using the MRM tools [the Magic Relationship
Method] successfully and doing better than
EVER!

Thank you guys so much for your support.

I got the business cards too and will be
sure to pass them on.

We love you!
Velina

Click here to get on the early notice list
http://www.magicrelationship.net/turningpoint.htm

Your Secret, Possibly Embarrassing Sex Questions

Paul — Thu, 02 Apr 2009 18:38:06 +0000

Here are just a few of the questions my readers sent
in for my teleseminar – interview with…

Ellen Eatough – The Soulful Sex Coach.

Along with answering your questions…

Ellen will be revealing the ‘4 Secret Keys’ to enhancing
intimacy, passion and sacred sexuality in your bedroom.
And you get to listen in at no charge … because you
are my invited guest.

>> http://www.magicrelationship.com/ask-ellen.htm <<

Here are a few of the questions sent in so far….

Why is the type of foreplay you may engage in often
counterproductive, no matter how much time you spend at it?
How do I get out of my own way when making love with my
partner? I usually feel self-conscious, am not sure I’m “doing it right”
for his pleasure, and spend most of my time in love-making trying
(often in vain) to have an orgasm so he doesn’t have to work so hard. !!
How can we bring more real intimacy into our love life?

How can I get my women more interested in frequent physical contact?

What does it take to really satisfy a woman?

What is the surprising thing men want most from sex?

What can you do to rev up a waning libido (yours or your partner’s)?

How to get my partner to communicate more about sex?

What’s the single most important thing a man can do to last longer?

Is there a way to help a woman “let go” and be more spontaneous and
responsive during lovemaking?

What can a woman can do to help her man experience full-body orgasms?

Want to listen and here the answer to these questions and many more…
get yourself registered for this free teleseminar that you can listen to
from the privacy of your home phone… or computer.

>> http://www.magicrelationship.com/ask-ellen.htm <<

>>> This is a TWO STEP PROCESS <<<

STEP 1) Register now as my guest and save yourself a space…
just click on this link – or copy and paste it in your browser.
(All the call details will be emailed to you.)

>> http://www.magicrelationship.com/ask-ellen.htm <<

STEP 2) Once you have registered… then send me an email with
your specific questions, don’t worry – your name will
be kept confidential. (paul (@) magicrelationship (.) com)

Put (here’s my question) in the subject line…

Your Dedicated Relationship Coach

PS. I want to ask Ellen your personal questions…
… so don’t miss out. Go get registered now and
then send your questions to me right away – since
the call is only an hour long – there will be
a limit to how many questions she can answer.

>> http://www.magicrelationship.com/ask-ellen.htm <<

Got Jealousy?

Paul — Tue, 10 Apr 2007 17:52:22 +0000

What do humans and the frilled lizard have in common?

Sometimes, when we’re afraid, we both puff out our faces and ears and try to act really, really scary.

The fear in jealousy is so strong that it can sometimes make us react to situations like a frilled lizard, just to make sure that our partner gets the point that we don’t want them to stray.

And how many times has that ever made your beloved admire you more? Probably not many…

People use the word ‘jealousy’ as a feeling, but Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of Nonviolent Communication (www.cnvc.org) would probably argue that it’s a thought.

For example, ‘abandoned’ is a thought — it’s your negative evaluation of somebody leaving you. But what if they IRS abandoned you and your audit? Is that necessarily negative? No…. so ‘abandoned’ is an evaluation of, or thought about, somebody leaving you.

In the same way, ‘jealousy’ isn’t really a feeling – it’s a thought. The event may be your beloved paying attention to somebody else in a way that you think means s/he may leave you (or that they love another person more than you). It’s the meaning that we attach to the event that we label ‘jealousy.’

The true feeling underneath jealousy is usually fear–that your beloved will leave you for another person. And fear is usually uncomfortable, if not down right painful. It awakens our limbic brain (the reptilian brain) and puts us in a fight or flight mode. We yell, we threaten, we puff out our ears and try to look real scary and go, “Bwah! Bwah!!” And generally look real stupid.

When we are giving our clients relationship advice, we show them how deal with situations so, when you feel triggered by the fear that underlies jealousy, it would help to call it what it is. Call it fear. Say to your partner: “Honey,

(Observation) “When I saw you talking to your ex this evening…

(Feelings) “I felt frightened…

(Needs) “Because I have a need for emotional safety in this relationship.

(Request) “Would you be willing to tell me truthfully if you’re falling back in love with her?”

Those are the four steps to speaking honestly using Nonviolent Communication. It’s scary to put your heart out to your beloved and expose yourself as being afraid. Most people don’t like to admit they’re scared. But isn’t it a lot better than fighting like a frilled lizard with your lover?

Asking the question in the nonviolent manner doesn’t imply that your lover did anything wrong. You’re taking full responsibility for the feeling of fear, not blaming them for having done anything ‘bad.’

And, of course, this is just one way to ask one little question about your feelings of jealousy. It may be useful to sit and look at where in your life somebody did leave you (or worse, didn’t love you but didn’t leave you, either). Those old wounds may be coming up now for you to look at, but your present lover may not be doing anything out of line

And always give your inner reptilian brain–your inner frilled lizard that puffs out its cheeks and tries to look scary–a lot of love. You developed that response because at some time you had a beautiful need for safety in a relationship and your frilled lizard is just trying to protect you.

To find out more about how to communicate about ‘jealousy’ and other emotional issues check out our teleseminars at http://www.magicrelationship.com/

You will learn ‘how to talk about emotional issues with taking it personally or making it personal’.