…there was amazing food, live music, dancing and lots of great conversations.

And one topic that kept coming up was relationships.

Many of my friends were going through upsets, misunderstandings and painful transitions in their relationships.

They talked about their love/hate feeling about the holidays because of all the stress and drama this season caused in their relationships.

Each new celebration, function or family event was an opportunity for upsets, misunderstanding, arguments and fights… all sorts of communication breakdowns.

Which party are we going to and why… which party do avoid at all costs… who’s family do we spend Christmas with, how do we talk to the ex-s, in-laws, the ex-in-laws, the step kids.

My friends wanted to know if my communication secrets could help them make it though the holidays with killing each other… or some innocent friend or family member.

I remember one time, years ago, getting in a huge upset with my dad because he thought I was putting the tinsel on the Christmas tree the “Wrong Way”.

No kidding, there is a RIGHT WAY to put tinsel on a tree. Go Figure.

Anyway that upset bleed over into my relationship and caused all sorts of drama…

It almost ruined our Christmas OVER TINSEL… ahhh.

That was BEFOREĀ  I learned the secrets of Compassionate Communication.

I am so thankful for how different, open and honest my communication was with my dad towards the end of his life. Each year I thank my the friends that introduced me to Compassionate Communication.

Anyway I left this Thanksgiving meal committed to do what I could to help my loyal readers (that’s you) make this holiday different.

To help youĀ  avoid the painful communication pitfallsĀ  and experience more love, intimacy, connection, compassion and understanding with your loved ones.

Sound good to you?

If so, than I will give you several ways to have a Miracle This Christmas.

Since one of the most important components of a great relationships is great communication, here are two ways you can learn these communication secrets.

Option a) This is for you if you want these communications secrets delivered in audio format.
Compassionate Communication Audio Interview Set

Includes the Following 3 Recordings:

• “The 5 Heart-Breaking, Intimacy-Destroying,
  and Relationship-Wrecking Communication Mistakes”
• “The 4 Simple Steps To Creating Instant
  Intimacy and Understanding”
• “The 7 Keys to a Magic Relationship”

If you are like me… and would rather listen than read another book (my bandstand has about 10
books sitting on it, impatiently waiting to be read).

($97.00 for the complete set of audio interviews)

In fact I decided to give away a FREE COPY of my eBook ‘STOP… In The Name Of Love’ (normally $19.95) to anyone who ordered the audio set.

But make sure to use this link to get the special

http://www.MagicRelationship.net/special/ebook-mp3

Option b) This is for you if you want some relationship coaching about specific communications issues. You get the audios from option a) along with the free eBook… and you also get a one hour coaching session over the phone.

I will personally work with you… or you and your lover… over the phone from anywhere in the world and coach you on your specific issue.

The eBook is normally $19.95,
the mp3s are $97.00,
an hour of my coaching is $97.00 (all together this would be $213.95)

http://www.MagicRelationship.net/ebook-mp3-coaching

All 3 for only $127 – i can only do this for the first 30 people because that is 30 hours i am adding to my already busy schedule. I expect this to sell out so please don’t be afforded if I run out of time before you get in… if that happens, you can still get the eBook and Mp3s.

so… if this interests you, do it today.
with passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling

This is not going to sound super sexy… but hey, it’s so true. The key to it all, to surviving… and maybe even thriving over the holidays is your communication skills.

Option a) $97 for the eBook and Mp3

1. The Compassionate Communication Audio Interview Set
2. the eBook ‘STOP… In The Name Of Love’

http://www.MagicRelationship.net/special/ebook-mp3

Option b) $127 for all three

1. 1 Hour Personal Coaching over the phone
2. The Compassionate Communication Audio Interview Set
3. the eBook ‘STOP… In The Name Of Love’
   

http://www.MagicRelationship.net/ebook-mp3-coaching

This statement rarely goes well for menā€¦

ā€¦ women rarely, if ever, say ā€œWe need to talk!ā€
and then say something that men want to hear, likeā€¦

ā€œHoney, I know how much you love making
loveā€¦ and Iā€™m sorry that I have been ignoring your
needs for touch!

Please forgive me and come to bed right now.
Is that okay with you?ā€

Not very likely,

So when us men hear those four wordsā€¦
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WE NEED TO TALK.
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well, quite honestly, we feel a chill go down our
spines and start looking for the emergency exit
while telling ourselvesā€¦

ā€œOH NO! What did I do wrong this time?

This isnā€™t going to go well for me.

She may need to talk, but I need to get
the hell out of hereā€¦ and fast.

What I needā€¦ is to get a drink, or go fishing.

Or get my teeth need to be drilled on without
any pain killer ā€“ until this blows over!ā€

How do you end the TERROR OF TALKING
and turn it around so that your lover looks
forward to TALKING, or at least doesnā€™t run
from the room.

Join me this Wednesday, Oct 12th and discover
some of these communication secrets:

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

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HOW TO TALK SO THAT YOUR
LOVER WANTS TO LISTENā€¦
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ā€¦ and understand you. (even about tough issues)

You will also learn about the LISTENING
SWITCH, and what causes your lover to
shut down (BSW) and turn theirs their
ears off and stop listening to you.

andā€¦
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HOW TO LISTEN SO THAT
YOUR LOVER WANTS TALKā€¦
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ā€¦to really open up and speak honestly and
vulnerability. And, so they feel HEARD,
UNDERSTOOD and VALUED.

These are skills anyone can learn, but few
do because we were never taught them.

ā€¦ and much more. In fact you can get
the study guide at

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

Want to know more and discover some of
the secrets of communication with the opposite
sex.

This is like having a DECODER RING that
translates almost any message into one of
two things.

An ACT OF LOVE or a CRY FOR HELP.

Listen as my guest this Wednesday, Oct 12th.
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THE TURNING POINT
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Some Simple Communication Tools to help
you deal with relationshipā€™s complex issues.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

Live with passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling
Your Relationship
and Intimacy Coach

PS. I want to answer your questions on this
call, so make sure to type your MOST BURNING
RELATIONSHIP QUESTION into the special
box when you are saving yourself a space on this
call.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

PPS. Keep your eyes open for the next email.
I will talking about WHY MOST RELATIONSHIPS
FAILā€¦ and what you can do about it.

Not on the mail list – fix that and get access to
my FREE SPECIAL REPORT and RELATIONSHIP
VIDEOS…

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freevideos

Believe or not, I spent a good part of the Wednesday and
Thursday behind bars. But hey… don’t worry; itā€™s not what you
think. I didn’t rob a bank, get a DWI or anything like that.

And… it WASNā€™T EVEN MY FAULT, really!

It all started about 6 Ā½ years ago when the head of inmate
counseling for the jail in Golden Colorado heard about what I do.

Iā€™m not sure whether it was my work with ā€˜at risk teensā€™ for
the Denver School District or my work teaching the ā€˜Magic
Relationship Methodā€™ of compassionate communication to the
professors at Naropa University, or something else… but
something got his attention.

What ever it was, he requested that I come in and teach my
compassionate communication method to their counselors who have
the VERY CHALLENGING job of communicating with upset and stressed
out inmates all day (and sometime all night) long.

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THEY WERE VERY SKEPTICAL TO START WITH
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So at the beginning of the class, the counselors were very
skeptical to say the least that this ā€˜compassion communication
crapā€™ would work here. But once they saw the method in action,
they warmed up to it. Some of them even got excited, seeing lots
of possible uses in their personal lives.

Well midway through the training I got a little cocky and made
the mistake of saying that this 4 step method was simple e nough
that almost anyone can learn it and use it.

And here is where it gets STRANGE…

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THEY WANTED ME TO PROVE IT
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They ended up loving this communication method but they wanted
me to prove it.

They suggested we put it to the test! And what they suggested,
well frankly, it scared the hell out of me.

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THIS WAS WAY OUTSIDE OF MY COMFORT ZONE
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They wanted me to teach my compassionate communication method
to prison inmates! The idea made sense, since most of lifeā€™s
problems are really just communication problems… and if you
teach someone new skills

But, I had never worked with inmates before or taught in a jail
or prison (aside from the one time teaching all the co unselors).
The truth I was feeling sick that day and not thinking straight
so I said okay… I will give it a try.

I donā€™t track how many people go though my classes, but I know
that is been over a 1,000 inmates.

By now you be saying to yourself…

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OKAY, BUT WHAT THAT GOT TO DO WITH ME?
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Well earlier this week I sent an email to you about the
relationships coaches who were stuck and came to me to learn ā€˜The
Magic Relationship Method.ā€™

If you didnā€™t read it yet, you can get the rest of the story
at…
magicrelationship.net/blog/relationship-coaches-need-coaching/

Anyway I got lots of response from people like you and one
question peo ple always ask is… ā€œMy situation is different, will
it work for me?

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YES AND NO
—————–

The no first, ā€˜NOā€™ it wonā€™t work with everyone, every time, in
every situation and get who ever you want to do everything you
want. If it could do that, it would be called mind control.

Itā€™s not a quick fix, a form of manipulation or another
Band-Aid that doesnā€™t really work.

It is a powerful form of communication that helps you get to
the heart of the issue. It help people open up and talk honestly
about what really going on.

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Here is the ā€˜YESā€™ part…
—————————–

If it will work in jail, for prison inmate… most likely it
will work for you. I have now taught this communication method to
prison inmates for almost 7 years, I have taught both men and
women, anywhere from minimum to maximum security… and it works.

By the way I have tons and tons of testimonials from the
inmates on my website, saying that this method helped them turn
their relationships, and their lives around.

Oh yeah, this is a volunteer program, most of my day to work is
with people like you, couples that still love each other but are
having communication problems that are ripping their relationship
apart.

So I know it works for couples that are willing to learn it…
and use it.

But hey, donā€™t take my word for it, let me help you prove to
yourself that the Magic Relationship Method will work for you.

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MY GIFT TO YOU…
————————-

I want to thanks all the readers that gave me feedback about
the ā€˜Magic Relationship Methodā€™ and ā€˜The Turning Pointā€™
relationship coaching program and take the time to answer a few
of the most common questions that my readers have been asking.

Since…

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I HATE to write, NO KIDDING!
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I know this seams crazy because I have written two books on
relationship communication, my relationship newsletter, and
countless articles BUT I hate to write! Itā€™s true, Iā€™d rather get
my teeth drilled on than write.

I have dyslexia, add, canā€™t spell to save my ass and as for my
grammar, well it could sure use some help. And yet I donā€™t know
how to write a short email. Donā€™t worry, I am going to figure it
out soon!

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I WANTED AN EASY AND FUN WAY TO LEARN
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All that said, I decided that the telephone is a much easier
and much more fun to answer your questions and introduce you to
the Magic Relationship Method (compassionate communication for
couples).

Want to hear what everyone is so excited about and get your
relationship questions and answered and listen in from the
comfort and privacy of your own home?

Here is what you do, click on this link, then enter your name
and email (I only send the call in details to people who request
it). Then check your email for details and a special Study guide
PDF.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

Remember, when you get there, also type in your most pressing
question about relationships, intimacy and communication.

Live with passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling

Your Relationship and Intimacy Coach

PS. Let help you prove this communication method will work for
you by answering your questions and show ing you how to put it to
the test. Save your space today and then listen in on October
12th to this one hour call.
http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

PPS. I was once told “Transform the way you communicate and you
can change your relationship with anyone.ā€ The problem was the
person that told me this… didnā€™t tell me how. I not trying to
get all mysterious on you but in a very short time, you can
discover the communication secrets it took me yearsĀ  and
thousands and thousands of dollars to uncover.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/freecall

I will cover these topics…
ā€¢ Increase intimacy with your lover
ā€¢ Clear up misunderstanding
ā€¢ Turn breakdowns into breakthroughs
ā€¢ Bring back that feeling of co nnection, understanding and
support
ā€¢ Create open and honest communication
ā€¢ Find out about your ā€œTURNING POINTā€ and ā€œNEXT STEPā€

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THEY WERE STUCK!
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Bob and Sarah (names changed for confidentiality) are a very successful couple that work together as relationship coachesā€¦

ā€¦so when they got stuck in the middle of a painful communication breakdown in their own relationship, they were frustrated, disappointed and even a little embarrassed. No matter what they tried, they couldnā€™t work it out.

They got this started when they reached out and asked for helpā€¦ even though guys sometimes have a hard time asking for help (sort of like asking for directions). But Bob got behind Sarahā€™s request because their relationship breakdown was having a huge impact on the quality of their livesā€¦

Not only did it impact them, it also impacted their kids and impacted their ability to work togetherā€¦. and consequently, their ability to help their clients.

Thatā€™s a lot of impact!

Sarah called me saying hey needed my help and they needed it now. She wanted something that was POWERFUL, EFFECTIVE and QUICK. They had set aside ONE DAY from their very busy work schedule to learn my compassionate communication tools.

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THEY NEEDED A TURNING POINT.
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It was going to be a challenge as Iā€™m used to teaching these tools in a two or three day workshop with much larger groups. I have taught these tools to a wide variety of people ranging from couples like you, to counselors and therapists who work with couples, to university professors, to prison inmates (no joke)ā€¦

I also coach couples from all around the world over the phone.

But this was a very new formatā€¦

So as a special favor for my friends, I put together a private, personalized one day program, just for them. On this day, we went through the Compassionate Communication Principles.

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WE PUT THEIR NEW SKILLS TO THE TEST.
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Then followed them up with exercises, practice and put what they learned to the test with some intense ā€˜role playingā€™. In other words have them talk about important emotional issues that would normally trigger them.

As we worked through the day, you could hear when an new insight hit home.
It went like this, ā€œah haā€ – ā€œOh shitā€ – ā€œNo wonderā€ – ā€œI didnā€™t know I did thatā€ – ā€œIā€™m soooo sorry, that must have been painfulā€ – ā€œNow I see why you were so hurt and pissed offā€ ā€“ ā€œNo wonder you didnā€™t want to help meā€ – ā€œNo wonder you wanted to sleep in the guest roomā€

It was an amazing day and truly ā€œTHE TURNING POINTā€™ for them and their communication. (Iā€™m thinking of keeping this name if I release the program).

Don’t get me wrong… I’m not saying that they solved all of their relationship issues in a single dayā€¦ or that they learned everything I had to teach about communication. What I gave them the specific tools, techniques and training they needed to turn the corner and start heading in a new direction.

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HERE IS SOMETHING I DIDNā€™T EXPECT.
———————————————————

That day together had such a powerful impact on their lives that Sarah and Bob started talking. They told their clients about what I did for them and this lead to me getting e-mails and phone calls requesting information about this new relationship coaching program called ā€˜THE TURNING POINTā€™.

All of sudden there was this buzz and excitement about this new ā€˜Relationship Programā€™.

The problem was, there wasn’t really ā€˜a programā€™ā€¦

ā€¦It was a one time training I did for my friends, but once there were enough e-mails and phone calls, I started thinking, it might be time to offer this to my clients and to the readers of my Compassionate Commutation Newsletter.

Maybe a should create and provide a personalized, private, confidential and powerful training that would last a one or two day and be customized for each couple.

Let me tell you in advance, if I create this programā€¦

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IT WON’T BE CHEAP, AND IT’S NOT FOR EVERYONE.
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ā€¦in fact you’ll have to qualify to get into it, partly because we’ll be working so closely together and I want to make sure our personalities are a matchā€¦ (translated, that means if you arenā€™t any fun to work with, Iā€™m not going to want work with youā€¦ andā€¦ if you donā€™t think Iā€™m fun to work with, you wonā€™t want to work with me!)

I also want to make sure you’re committed to learning and applying what I have to teach to your relationship and your life, otherwise itā€™s just a waste of our time.

In addition, it would be irresponsible of me and frustrating for you if both people in your relationship are not ready, willing and able to make the needed changes to turn things around.

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I AM SORRY!
——————-

I would like to apologize in advance, because of how much personal attention I will be giving each couple and because I already have a busy schedule, I am going to have to limit this to 10 totally committed couples.

The problem is the last time I checked there were 8,807 people on my e-mail list so I will setting up some clear qualifications in advance so that I donā€™t get overwhelmed with requests to get into this first program.

I will keep you posted.

Soā€¦ if you are interested in getting on the beta test program, you may want to be on my priority (first to know) waiting list. If so, just go to www.MagicRelationship.net/tpc and enter your name and email. That way, if this program happens, you will be one of the first to know and be considered.

Live with passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling
Relationship and Intimacy Coach

PS. Keep your eyes open, I will be giving you more details on ā€˜The Turning Pointā€™ relationship coaching program and what the qualifications will be for taking part in this program . I will also let you know what compassionate communication secrets were revealed to Sarah and Bobā€¦ Again, to be on my priority (first to know) waiting list just go to www.MagicRelationship.net/tpc

PPS. This is an obvious but often overlooked fact:

ā€œTHE QUALITY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP is based on THE QUALITY OF YOUR COMMUNICATIONā€¦ when that communication falls apart, so does your relationship!ā€

IFā€¦ you believe thatā€™s true, which it is, THENā€¦ the best way to improve your relationship is to improve your compassionate communication skills.

PPPS. If you want to get started today in creating more intimacy, understanding, and open and honest communication in your relationship, I have two suggestions and some simple tools to help with relationships complex issues.

1) the first is my e-book called ā€˜STOPā€¦ In The Name of Loveā€™. Let me tell you in advance, I never claimed to be a great writer, I just claim to have some great information for turning your relationship around. This book may be the $19.95 you ever spent on your love life. Print it out and start reading it to each other tonight www.MagicRelationship.net/ebook

2) The second suggestion is a set of live recordings I did. There are three parts ā€“ the first is ā€˜Stop Pushing Your Lover Away ā€“ 5 Common Communication Mistakesā€™ ā€“ the second is ā€˜4 Steps to Creating Almost Instant Intimacy ā€“ the third is ā€˜7 Keys To Building a Bright Future With Your Loverā€™. This program is $97.00 and you will want to listen to it again and again. I have it on my ipod and still listen to it myself when I need a reminder. www.MagicRelationship.net/mp3

Below is the information on a recent teleseminar I did with my beloved, Julianne Parkinson. If you scroll down to the bottom – you can listen to a recording of the call.

Paul
Valentineā€™s Day is almost here…

And lots of people are thinking about relationships.

Especially me… being a relationship coach and all.

So here is what I think…

Every relationship has itā€™s ups and downs…

Itā€™s challenges, misunderstandings and disagreements…

The really important thing is how we handle them ā€“ do they bring us closer… or drive us apart?

Ready to try something new… if so – in the middle of your next upset… ask yourself and your lover ā€œWhat would love do next?ā€ ā€œHow would lovelead the way through this mess?ā€

I have seen… and experienced… first hand, the pain and disappointment that happens when anger leads the way, or fear, or jealousy, or hurt feelings…

But what about love, what if you consciously choose to Let Love Lead? The outcome is very different. I know!

This is the way my be-loved and I choose to work through our upsets… and… I thought with Valentineā€™s Day coming up… I would share some of the key tips for creating a relationship filled with compassion, connection and understanding.

I know that Valentineā€™s Day is not always fun. It can be a great reminder of what we have… but it can also be a painful and depressing reminder of what’s missing.

So I decided to create a teleseminar that will give you some compassionate communication secrets to increase… or bring back… the love, intimacy and understanding you want to feel on a daily basis.

** Letting Love Lead – Relationship Teleseminar **

Itā€™s called the ā€œLetting Love Leadā€ teleseminar (How to create mo re love, intimacy, joy, harmony understanding and passion in your relationship.)

Overly simplified: a great and loving relationship comes from having great and loving communication… and… when that communication starts to fall apart, so does the relationship.

Listen in from the privacy of your home phone and you will…

* Discover what you can do today, that will make a big difference tonight, that will help you bring back the feelings you had when you first fell in love with your lover.

* How to move from being in REACTION… to being at CHOICE with your lover

* How to stop the 5 relationship wrecking mistakes from destroying your relationship

* How to listen so that your lover wants to talk…
Find out the 3 keys to listening

* How to talk so your so your lover wants to listen… Find out the 3 keys to talking

* How to turn communication breakdowns into breakthroughs…

* Along with a simple, 5 minute exercise we do nightly to help keep the love, intimacy and passion alive…

What all this means to you and your relationship is you have more tools and skills to increase the amount of love, intimacy, understanding, connection and compassion you experience in your relationship every day.

Some of these items will be covered in depth, some just briefly because of the limited amount of time on this call.

Be my guest, no charge, my Valentineā€™s Day gift to you. Click here to save yourself a space of this call.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/ask/index.php

*** More Open, Honest & Intimate Communication ***

SEE RECORDING BELOW

Itā€™s easy to attend, just call in to our special conference calling line where you can listen… or participate and ask your most pressing questions about relationships and communication.

I look forward to talking to you soon… and until then, live and love with courage and compassion

Paul Sterling
Your Relationship Coach

PS. Discover what it takes to keep love, intimacy and passion alive. Save your space to listen to this candid, hour long teleseminar as

PSS. Give the gift of better communication.

Check out my eBook called ā€˜STOP… In The Name Of Love. It may be the best $19.95 you ever invested in your relationship.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/ebook/

Part 1 - Letting love Lead #1

Part 2 - Letting love Lead #2

Part 3 - Letting love Lead #3

Part 4 - Letting love Lead #4

Discover the secrets to turning you relationship around. Be HEARD, UNDERSTOOD and VALUED… Learn the power of conscious, compassionate and courageous communication with you lover.

and yes it is 10 MINUTES LONG… but hey, what if it could help you know what to do to save your relationship?

Click here to view the embedded video.

Please watch this mind… and heart opening video… and then leave your comments below.

If you would like a copy of ‘The Turning Point In Your Relationship’ flow chart…Ā  you can download a pdf by clicking on this link or on the image below.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/turning_point_in_your_relationship.pdf

With purpose, passion and possibility,

Paul Sterling

To get your copy of my new book on
compassionate communication for couples
called ‘STOP… In The Name Of Love’

click here...

http://www.magicrelationship.net/ebook

Have you ever noticed that the people you love the most, are often the most difficult to talk to?Ā  Come discover a compassionate communication method that allows both of you to feel really heard, understood and valuedā€¦ in any situation.

Picture how much more enjoyable your relationship would beā€¦ without the constant drama of conflictsā€¦ without the stress of painful misunderstandingsā€¦Ā  without having to walk on egg shellsā€¦ without the frustration of one-word, one-way conversationsā€¦ when you can talk openly and honestly about almost anythingā€¦

On Sunday September 26, at the Spiritkeepers Event, I will be doing a one hour workshop. (this is in Boulder, CO at ‘The West Boulder Senior Center – 909 Arapahoe Avenue – for directions or more information go to: http://www.magicrelationship.net/spirit

youā€™ll discover how to:

ā€¦ avoid the 5 common communication pitfalls that wreck relationships and replace them with healthy habits

ā€¦ end the painful downward spiral some relationships get into and start bringing back the intimacy, understanding, and passion you desire before it’s too late!”

ā€¦ listen so that your partner wants to open up and talk ā€“ talk so your partner wants to listen and understand you

ā€¦ stop the painfulĀ  blame, shame and guilt game – and talk about important, stressful issues without taking things personally or making them personal

The key to a great relationshipā€¦ is great communicationā€¦ and when that communication breaks down ā€“ so does the relationship. In fact most relationship problems are really just communication problems. So if you want to improve the quality of your relationship, or in some cases: to save your relationship, the secret is to improve the quality of your communicationā€¦

Compassionate Communication For Couples Intro

I hope to see you there,

Paul Sterling

PS for more info: http://www.magicrelationship.net/spirit

I’m writing this, looking out over three hammocks, and the beautiful blue ocean. Part of the reason I’m writing this long-winded post, is to let you know why I haven’t finished updating the last three chapters of the e-bookā€¦ I promise to do it soon.

Until then, here’s a quick tour of the beautiful little town Yelapa, on the west coast of Mexico, just south of Puerto Vallarta.

The main street, which isn’t really a street at all, more like a weaving path, sometimes with concrete and cobblestones, sometimes just mud and stones, is truly the main and only thoroughfare through town.

At its widest spots, you can use a four-wheel-drive ATV, something that sort of like a heavy-duty go-cart, but the most common travel is by foot or by burro. The burros seem to do most of the heavy lifting and transporting through town and up the narrow mountain trailsā€¦ Yelapa is small itā€™s more like a villageā€¦ not really sure what to call it.

Anyway, I’m sure that after a couple of weeks you get to know everybody, and everybody, for better or for worse gets to know you, because you pass them daily on the main street ā€“ path – trailā€¦ and youā€™re on foot.

I definitely enjoy the feel. The 15 minute walk to town, often takes two or three times as long because of the conversations you have the people along the way.

Yesterday we took a two hour trip (I’m here with my brother and motherā€¦ and soon my girlfriend will be flying in to join us) up the narrow jungle trail into the local rainforest to see some wonderful waterfalls.

About a half an hour out of town, we came across something that best could be called the shack. There was as many planks missing from the side of the building, as were in place. It truly looked like one strong wind would blow the whole thing overā€¦ and yet there in the middle of nowhere was the satellite dish. Ah yes, modern technology.

As we waalked deeper into the rain forest, it became very clear why it was called the RAIN forestā€¦ there was several times we retreated under the shelter of very large and twisting trees, staying relatively dry in the downpours.

We are here in February, which I’m guaranteed by the locals is the dry season, and so far. It’s rained almost every day so farā€¦ including one major tropical storm, which blew rain 20 feet into the living room, soaking furniture, beds, pretty much everything.

Oh yeah, there are no windows, and only very limited walls as protection against the stormā€¦ so when the winds started howling, it blew in one side out of house and out the other.

I don’t have the wrong about any of this, I’m not complainingā€¦ so far itā€™s felt like a grand adventure.

And it keeps getting better, after returning from the rain forest, we decide to go for a swim in the ocean. I was standing about knee deep in the gentle surf, when I looked down and noticed something undulating in the ways. As I watched more closely, I realized it was actually swimming. Than there was two of them, than three, than fourā€¦

Turns out that these creatures were a relative of moray eels, called Tiger Reef Eels. They look like and swimming snake, are about a foot and a half long and have beautiful pattern of black-and-white, but i must say, I was a little intimidating by the idea of swimming with them, since it first, I thought they might be sea snakes.

Well after my non-swim with the eels. I decided to keep my commit and finish working on my e-book ā€“ STOPā€¦ In The Name of Love. This meant dealing with the local technology problems.

which, by the way, wasn’t doing so well since the rain took down the local wireless Internet connectionā€¦ for about a day and a halfā€¦ when they finally got that fixed.

Caroline, who manages the place we’re staying, let me know that I better come check my e-mails while had a chance.

I headed over to the main house where everythingā€™s set up, got my laptop computer going and found out that I have about 473 e-mails in my inbox that wanted to my attentionā€¦ before I could do anything about it, we had a electrical blackout.

That lasted the next three hours. So by the time we got electricity again I was in the middle of a card gameā€¦ and so I’ve put off checking my e-mail until this morning.

Oh yeah, at that point there over 610 that need my attentionā€¦ and I’m thinking of heading off to town for breakfastā€¦ instead.

I think this is probably the longest excuse letter I’ve ever written so farā€¦ Welcome to Mexico.

With passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling
Your Relationship Coach

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STOP… In The Name of Love…

How to STOP the 5 Destructive Communication Habits Before They Destroy Your Loving Relationship…

The draft version is not longer available… but you can get a copy at http://www.magicrelationship.net/ebook/

Just think about this – the foundation to a great relationship is great communication.

Great Communication = Great Relationshipā€¦

Poor communication = Poor relationshipā€¦

Hereā€™s another way to say it:Ā  what you CAN talk about… and… what you CANā€™T talk aboutā€¦ shapes your relationshipā€¦ itā€™s the key to trust, openness, honesty, and intimacy.

Donā€™t get me wrong, I know that having chemistryā€¦ and friendshipā€¦ and a great sex lifeā€¦ along with many other factors also contribute to a great relationshipā€¦ but the number one key is great communication!

And on the other side: money issues, jealousy, loss of passion and intimacy, infidelity, children, work obligations, exā€™s and in-lawsā€¦ all can contribute to the stresses of a relationshipā€¦ but again, if you know how to talk through it ā€“ you can get though it.

Think about this painful fact: ā€œmost relationships donā€™t end because of a lack of love; they end because of a lack of communication skills.ā€

As your relationship faces increasing challenges and demands ā€“ your communication skills also need to improve and expand. Basically you need new skills to face the new challenges.

What you may not know (or at least might have thought of it this way before) is that almost all relationship problems are communication problems.

This is really, really, really importantā€¦ so let me say that again.

Almost all relationship problems are really communication problems.

So, if you can transform the way you communication, you can solve most of your relationship problems.

Got it?Ā  Good!

As one of my mentors once saidā€¦

ā€œChange the way you communicate and you can change your relationship with anyone.ā€ Tony Robbins

To find out more about this eye opening, mind opening, ear opening… and yes… heart opening book on compassionate communication for couples, just go to http://www.magicrelationship.net/ebook

with purpose, possiblity amd passion,

Paul Sterling

PS to find out what the 5 relationship-wrecking communication mistakes are… and how to avoid them, get a copy ofĀ  ‘STOP… In The Name of Love’ today… discover how to be heard, understood and values in your relationship.

http://www.magicrelationship.net/ebook

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Stop… In The Name Of Love – How to Stop the Five Destructive Communication Habits That May Be Destroying Your Loving Relationship

well here it is – at about 1:00 last night when i got because the dog had an accident…

(yeah, I know tmi)

anyway, I couldn’t go back to sleep so instead of laying in bed – tossing and turning – i finished chapter #3

the chapter on the destructive habit called;Ā  STORYTELLING… That’s my story and I’m sticking to it…

so for your reference here is a reader’s digest form of the Table Of Contents…
(don’t worry – there is much more in the book – this is just to give you a sneak
peak)

• The 5 Communication Habits Intro
  The ‘Real Reason’ most relationships end, failā€¦
  hint- it’s not what you think

• Habit 1) CASE-BUILDING… I’m Right – You’re Wrong…
  AnythingĀ  you say can and willā€¦ be used against you…

  How labeling will destroy your relationship
  A simple way to re-connect with your lover

• Habit 2) STORYTELLINGā€¦ That’s my story and I’m sticking to it… Asking for what you want so you they want to give it
  How your stories rob you of intimacy and love.
  Why peopleā€™s stories are more important than reality
  How the stories you tellā€¦ can make your life Hell – or Heaven

• Habit 3) MESSAGE ASSUMINGā€¦Ā  When Mind Reading Goes Bad… The two types of messages assuming
  What causes misunderstandings and how to avoid them
  The trick the pizza guy knows, that could save your relationship
  The one question that stops message assuming in its tracks

• Habit 4) CUP STUFFINGā€¦ The Straw That Broke the Relationships Back… When to never ask for what you wantā€¦ and why
  One simple question that will let you know exactly what to give your lover

• Habit 5) The FATAL F’sā€¦ Let Me Tell You What To Do… A common mistake that will repel your partner and erode trust
  Secret recipe for juicy intimacy and rebuilding trust
• and much, much more…

When you are done reading this eBook, you will understand where most misunderstandings, conflicts, upsets and arguments come from… and more importantly, what to do about it

With passion, purpose and possibility,

Paul Sterling

Your Relationship Coach

PS. if you haven’t already reserved your FREE COPY, do it now, before Valentines Day (after that it’s $47.95) -

… just go to http://www.magicrelationship.net/valentine