STOP… In The Name Of Love – The Book

Are you in a relationship where you still love each but your communication is falling apart and sucking the joy and harmony out of your relationship?

Does everything you try just seam to make things worse and leave you feeling hurt, helpless and hopeless?

 

Dear Friend,

You are not alone; I understand what that feels like… and what to do about it.

If you are like many of my clients you feel like:

  • Talking about important, emotional issues, ends up with someone taking things personally or make them personal. Leaving one or both of you pissed off, in pain and ready to call it quits
  • You can’t remember the last time you felt heard, understood or valued
  • The passion and bliss is disappearing you don’t know what to do to bring it back, you are trapped in a downward cycle where no one wins
  • Your communication commonly breaks down into one way, one word conversations leaving everyone walking and talking on egg shells
  •  Nothing you try seams to work and you don’t know what to do so you are almost at the end of your relationship rope

Does anything here sound or feel familiar?

This is what some of my readers had to say when asked the question:
“Things would be better if only…?”

  • “He would just listen to me.”
  • “Only I could communicate my feelings more easily.”
  • “We had better open communication/able to express concerns, issues and better connection.”
  • “My husband would be more flexible, communicate & share.”
  • “He would be more supportive when I’m insecure.”
  • “My guy would understand that I am totally interested in him only.”
  • “He could risk (he is protecting his heart from being hurt again).”
  • “My partner would be more affectionate.”
  • “She would stop pulling away and shutting me out.”
  •  “He treated me as well as he did in the beginning.”
  • “We could find our friendship again”
  • “ He thought I was special”
  • “I had more reassurance that he’s here for me”

I could go on, but you get the idea. I have surveyed  over 557 people about their relationships and ALMOST ALL RELATIONSHIP PROBLEMS… are REALLY COMMUNICATION PROBLEMS.

That is why I wrote this book, ‘STOP In The Name of Love’ to help my relationship coaching clients turn their communication breakdowns… into breakthroughs that bring them closer.

You are in the right place if you still love your partner but are tired of the painful misunderstandings, tired of having small issues blow up into big upsets, tired of walking and talking on eggshells.

You are in the right place if to bring back the love, intimacy and understanding you first felt in your relationship.

You’re in the right place, if you’re looking for a communication method that almost makes it easier (sometimes a lot easier) to talk about important and emotional issues.

You’re in the right place if you want to understand the secret of talking so that your lover wants to listen… and how to listen to your lover wants to open up, be vulnerable and really talk.

Don’t get me wrong, this communication method will not solve all of your relationship problems instantly, but it can make a huge difference.

The reason I started here is because…

…The quality of your relationship is based on the quality or communication…
And when your communication falls apart, so does your relationship.

You’re about to discover five very common communication mistakes that almost everyone makes that stop intimacy, understanding and open and honest communication.

How powerful is knowing these 5 mistakes are and how to avoid them?

Well this may just save your relationship.

What’s the cost of not knowing what they are?

Great question!

For me the cost the of not knowing these 5 mistakes has been countless, unnecessary misunderstandings, arguments and upsets. I’ve gone through one divorce three broken engagements. How different things might have turned out if I learned these tools in time. Now I get to share them with my clients, and hopefully with you.

Here is my story, my turning point.

I sure didn’t start out to be a relationship coach, author and public speaker. I was having a very successful career as a business consultant. I got to travel around the world, working with clients as far away as Hong Kong and Hawaii and Alaska.

On the outside, my life looked pretty successful and I look pretty happy. On the inside my heart was breaking and my relationship was falling apart. That didn’t just happen once, but several times.

I am pretty smart… and persistent. In face I tried almost everything i could find – books, cds, workshops, marriage consoling – great ideas, but it didn’t work for me. Nothing really helped.

Luckily i didn’t give up. I stumbled on the answer totally by accident (I’ll tell you how some other time), something called Nonviolent Communication (NVC).

I know, NVC is an odd name, I mean after all, I wasn’t violent, why did I need this? As you can tell, it wasn’t the name that attracted me, it was watching my friends use this methodology to turn their relationship around. They had been fighting, having affairs, living  apart in a trail separation, I was sure their marriage was over and then they discovered NVC.

The transformation was so amazing I decided I needed to learn this myself and traveled all the way to Sweden to study with Dr. Marshall Rosenberg, the creator of NVC.

Fast forward a few years and I am standing in front a group of professors, therapists and marriage counselors. They were going to spend 3 days listening and learning from me. At one point I remember wondering “How in the world did I get here?”

I am a high school drop out with a terrible record in relationships. Remember the divorce and 3 broken engagements. Why did Naropa University hire me to come and teach compassionate communication skills to some of their smartest and best staff and professors?

Two reasons.

The first reason is simple, because this method is simple, powerful and effective. IT WORKS!

The second reason is because I seam to have a knack for making a complex subject like communication easy to learn, understand and apply.

After using this method with my clients for years helping them transform their relationships, I decided I wanted to help even more people… so I wrote a book.

‘STOP… In The Name Of Love’

You can now download these secrets on to your computer right away and start taking advantage of this method without having fly to Sweden.

Why is this book important…

…because most relationships don’t end because of
lack of love, they end because a lack of skills.

And the most important skill of all for successful, happy and passionate relationships is the communication skill. And when I say communication skill, I’m not talking about talking. I’m talking about being able listen fearlessly and talk courageously.

This book is a great stepping stone and can help you see communication in a how new heart opening light.

The bottom line is this…

I decided to offer the ebook and several bonuses (see below) at a price that wouldn’t break the bank.  $19.97 is less then I change for 10 minutes of my personal coaching time ($125 hr).

Here my simple guarantee – read the whole thing, if you are not slapping yourself in the forehead, wishing you had learned this method years ago, just send me an email and I’ll refund your money. You have 90 days to check it out.

“Radically Impacted My Relationships…”

“I recognize how I am constantly building cases against people. Just that alone has radically impacted my relationships.”
Daniela Hess Scholl
Ithaca, New York

“I now have a way to EXPRESS my needs”

“…what really hit me and is sticking like glue is that I now have a way to EXPRESS my needs and by having that option it’s allowed me to really examine my own needs.  By examining my needs and feeling permission to express them I already feel a shift that i am more sensitive to others’ needs. It’s like a weight off my shoulders!!

I think the Magic Relationship Method is a great way to not only communicate what your needs are but to also come to an understanding of others and their needs as well.

The impact was so immediate…  I definitely appreciate the info and look forward to learning more.”
Ed L.

Okay now the ball is in your court and you have 3 possible choices.

  1. you can do nothing and hopes it goes away
  2. you can keep looking for another solution
  3. you can say ‘YES’ and get started now!

Obviously I am biased, my recommendation is to grab your credit card, click on the order link below and pick up your copy of the eBook now.

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You can download it in minutes.

With passion, purpose and possibility,

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Paul Sterling
Your relationship and intimacy coach

PS. I have decided to include some bonuses to inspire you to take action.

There are 3 Bonuses. The first 2 are MP3s – Over 2 Hours!

Bonus #1: Live Recorded Interview

Paul  will take you step-by-step through the 5 Mistakes…

These are live recorded interviews of Paul teaching participants about how to overcome the 5 Mistakes.

We spend over an hour in each recording discussing the issues that plague most relationships — nothing held back or censored.  They include an extensive question and answer session with the participants at the end of each recording.

We include a free 8 page workbook that you can use to follow through the calls as we explore

  • How to easily identify and more importantly… avoid the top 5 mistakes people experience…
  • What causes most communication problems?
  • How to clear up communication problems! (some simple rules to follow)
  •  What prevents communication problems from occurring?
  •  Examples you can relate to and use in your life… starting today.

A $29.95 Value, but yours free if you act today!

 Bonus #2: A Second Live Recorded Interview

Paul talks about your Relationship OperatingSystem (ROS)

On this call we dive into the power our past can have on our present day to day and our future. Past relationships, past baggage, past experiences that could be running and ruining your current love life.

  • We include a free 6 page workbook that you can use to follow the calls as we explore…
  • How to identify baggage that is getting in the way of intimacy and understanding…
  • Why some issues are recycled, but never resolved.
  • How to talk about the past so it stops creating upsets in the present.
  • How to talk to someone who is stuck in the past, always bringing up old stuff.
  • Examples you can relate to and use in your life… starting today.

A $29.95 value, but yours free if you act today!

Bonus 3) I will also include in your package, free of charge, a second e-book ‘The 4 Steps To Instant Intimacy’.

You are getting a preview copy (so know in advance that there will still some spelling mistakes and grammar issues – but I didn’t want to hold it back anymore.)

Once I update it– it will also cost $19.95, however for now – it’s your FREE BONUS when you order the Magic Relationship Method….

Bonus #1     $29.95
Bonus #2     $29.95
Bonus #3     $19.95
Total Value $99.80

Your investment in the future of your relationship and for the eBook ‘STOP… In The Name of Love’ along with all 3 bonuses is only $19.95

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P.P.S. “Insanity is communicating the same way over and over again, expecting a different result.” Arguments, intimacy problems, family feuds as well as problems on the job — these are most often communication problems, either with others or ourselves. 

“I learned more about communication when I felt I was already good at it… “

“I will seriously take the tools learned in this class with me to the outside world and into my everyday life. I enjoyed the class tons. I learned more about communication when I felt I was already good at it. I’m glad I took this class and I hope I will be strong enough to use these tools in real life with my mom.

Jessica B.
Golden CO

“I’m grateful for these life changing tools.”

“The information was bought across very clear and effective. I’m in a position of desperate change for my life. I’m grateful for these life-changing tools I believe will be a catalyst to better communication. I believe the “power of words” – communication and how we use these words are the tools we use to either break down or build up. I choose to build up and encourage with the communication skills I have learned today.”

Ken R.

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