Nomeka          my question is: how can I prevent myself from feeling misunderstood by my partner and others?

Andy                If someone is doing something that you feel is wrong or "bad" for them, how do address it without getting fired up, which results in the conversation going nowhere?

Denise             How do you stop destructive habits in a relationship when you have been doing them for so long you don't even realize they are destructive or the impact they are having on the other person until it is too late?

Marylea           How to deal with it when both are in crisis?  Whose needs get met first?

Ramiro            if we had a very hard time in a conversation, if I am hurt and resentful, how do I reconcile?  For example, we both got angry and I said some things that stimulated hurt and resentment on the other, and vice versa.   Now every time I see her I remember this incident and feel cautious: how do I get over my own resentment, how do I handle the cautiousness that I now feel every time I interact with the other person and makes closeness difficult, if we want to get over it, what is a good attitude that encourages forgiveness.  I think I have a defense/safety mechanism that puts a reminder and a barrier with people that have stimulated hurt in me, I need to replace that with something more positive but haven’t' found it quite yet.

bill                    How do I learn to be a better listener so that I hear the issues.

Fran                 How do you learn to trust someone again after they have lied or cheated on you?

Doug               Once "trust" has been jeopardized with a lover, getting it back seems rather challenging. Please help with your suggestions for getting past the breach, putting history lovingly into the context of NOW.

Bonnie             I'm interested in creating a great partnership/relationship/love, how do I help myself be ready, available and accepting?

Sewa               I would like guidance on the correct questions to ask myself and other person when there is an extreme change in the interaction between us and leads to criticism and distancing. How do I maintain my self esteem and security while communicating these difficult conversations?

David               how can I get my needs met and my partners needs met without me feeling like I am loosing myself in the process?

MBA                How to avoid anger with you wife

Rebecca         How do you know if your relationship partner is going to move beyond dating, to a closer live relationship? How can you figure out if they will never want that, so that you can move on to someone that wants that type of relationship with you.

Charles            What are the indicators that determine when a relationship is over (for the best of everyone involved or just best for me) and it is time to move on?

Patricia            How can we keep the excitement and passion of the early stages of the relationship from vanishing away after the 3rd or 4th month together?