{"id":989,"date":"2011-09-28T10:05:37","date_gmt":"2011-09-28T17:05:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/?p=989"},"modified":"2011-10-01T18:17:17","modified_gmt":"2011-10-02T01:17:17","slug":"relationship-coaches-need-coaching","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/relationship-coaches-need-coaching\/","title":{"rendered":"Even Relationship Coaches need Relationship Coaches"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>let me tell you a story about how this got started\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br \/>\nTHEY WERE STUCK!<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p>Bob and Sarah (names changed for confidentiality) are a very successful couple that work together as relationship coaches\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026so when they got stuck in the middle of a painful communication breakdown in their own relationship, they were frustrated, disappointed and even a little embarrassed. No matter what they tried, they couldn\u2019t work it out.<\/p>\n<p>They got this started when they reached out and asked for help\u2026 even though guys sometimes have a hard time asking for help (sort of like asking for directions). But Bob got behind Sarah\u2019s request because their relationship breakdown was having a huge impact on the quality of their lives\u2026<\/p>\n<p>Not only did it impact them, it also impacted their kids and impacted their ability to work together\u2026. and consequently, their ability to help their clients.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s a lot of impact!<\/p>\n<p>Sarah called me saying hey needed my help and they needed it now. She wanted something that was POWERFUL, EFFECTIVE and QUICK. They had set aside ONE DAY from their very busy work schedule to learn my compassionate communication tools.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\n<a title=\"Relaionship Coaching program\" href=\"http:\/\/www.MagicRelationship.net\/tpc\" target=\"_blank\">THEY NEEDED A TURNING POINT.<\/a><br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>It was going to be a challenge as I\u2019m used to teaching these tools in a two or three day workshop with much larger groups. I have taught these tools to a wide variety of people ranging from couples like you, to counselors and therapists who work with couples, to university professors, to prison inmates (no joke)\u2026<\/p>\n<p>I also coach couples from all around the world over the phone.<\/p>\n<p>But this was a very new format\u2026<\/p>\n<p>So as a special favor for my friends, I put together a private, personalized one day program, just for them. On this day, we went through the Compassionate Communication Principles.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br \/>\nWE PUT THEIR NEW SKILLS TO THE TEST.<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p>Then followed them up with exercises, practice and put what they learned to the test with some intense \u2018role playing\u2019. In other words have them talk about important emotional issues that would normally trigger them.<\/p>\n<p>As we worked through the day, you could hear when an new insight hit home.<br \/>\nIt went like this, \u201cah ha\u201d &#8211; \u201cOh shit\u201d &#8211; \u201cNo wonder\u201d &#8211; \u201cI didn\u2019t know I did that\u201d &#8211; \u201cI\u2019m soooo sorry, that must have been painful\u201d &#8211; \u201cNow I see why you were so hurt and pissed off\u201d \u2013 \u201cNo wonder you didn\u2019t want to help me\u201d &#8211; \u201cNo wonder you wanted to sleep in the guest room\u201d<\/p>\n<p>It was an amazing day and truly<a title=\"Relaionship Coaching program\" href=\"http:\/\/www.MagicRelationship.net\/tpc\" target=\"_blank\"> \u201cTHE TURNING POINT\u2019<\/a> for them and their communication. (I\u2019m thinking of keeping this name if I release the program).<\/p>\n<p>Don&#8217;t get me wrong&#8230; I&#8217;m not saying that they solved all of their relationship issues in a single day\u2026 or that they learned everything I had to teach about communication. What I gave them the specific tools, techniques and training they needed to turn the corner and start heading in a new direction.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br \/>\nHERE IS SOMETHING I DIDN\u2019T EXPECT.<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>That day together had such a powerful impact on their lives that Sarah and Bob started talking. They told their clients about what I did for them and this lead to me getting e-mails and phone calls requesting information about this new relationship coaching program called \u2018THE TURNING POINT\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>All of sudden there was this buzz and excitement about this new \u2018Relationship Program\u2019.<\/p>\n<p>The problem was, there wasn&#8217;t really \u2018a program\u2019\u2026<\/p>\n<p>\u2026It was a one time training I did for my friends, but once there were enough e-mails and phone calls, I started thinking, it might be time to offer this to my clients and to the readers of my Compassionate Commutation Newsletter.<\/p>\n<p>Maybe a should create and provide a personalized, private, confidential and powerful training that would last a one or two day and be customized for each couple.<\/p>\n<p>Let me tell you in advance, if I create this program\u2026<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nIT WON&#8217;T BE CHEAP, AND IT&#8217;S NOT FOR EVERYONE.<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>\u2026in fact you&#8217;ll have to qualify to get into it, partly because we&#8217;ll be working so closely together and I want to make sure our personalities are a match\u2026 (translated, that means if you aren\u2019t any fun to work with, I\u2019m not going to want work with you\u2026 and\u2026 if you don\u2019t think I\u2019m fun to work with, you won\u2019t want to work with me!)<\/p>\n<p>I also want to make sure you&#8217;re committed to learning and applying what I have to teach to your relationship and your life, otherwise it\u2019s just a waste of our time.<\/p>\n<p>In addition, it would be irresponsible of me and frustrating for you if both people in your relationship are not ready, willing and able to make the needed changes to turn things around.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br \/>\nI AM SORRY!<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p>I would like to apologize in advance, because of how much personal attention I will be giving each couple and because I already have a busy schedule, I am going to have to limit this to 10 totally committed couples.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is the last time I checked there were 8,807 people on my e-mail list so I will setting up some clear qualifications in advance so that I don\u2019t get overwhelmed with requests to get into this first program.<\/p>\n<p>I will keep you posted.<\/p>\n<p>So\u2026 if you are interested in getting on the beta test program, you may want to be on my priority (first to know) waiting list. If so, just go to<a title=\"Relaionship Coaching program\" href=\"http:\/\/www.MagicRelationship.net\/tpc\" target=\"_blank\"> www.MagicRelationship.net\/tpc <\/a>and enter your name and email. That way, if this program happens, you will be one of the first to know and be considered.<\/p>\n<p>Live with passion, purpose and possibility,<\/p>\n<p>Paul Sterling<br \/>\nRelationship and Intimacy Coach<\/p>\n<p>PS. Keep your eyes open, I will be giving you more details on \u2018The Turning Point\u2019 relationship coaching program and what the qualifications will be for taking part in this program . I will also let you know what compassionate communication secrets were revealed to Sarah and Bob\u2026 Again, to be on my priority (first to know) waiting list just go to <a title=\"Relaionship Coaching program\" href=\"http:\/\/www.MagicRelationship.net\/mp3\" target=\"_blank\">www.MagicRelationship.net\/tpc<\/a><\/p>\n<p>PPS. This is an obvious but often overlooked fact:<\/p>\n<p>\u201cTHE QUALITY OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP is based on THE QUALITY OF YOUR COMMUNICATION\u2026 when that communication falls apart, so does your relationship!\u201d<\/p>\n<p>IF\u2026 you believe that\u2019s true, which it is, THEN\u2026 the best way to improve your relationship is to improve your compassionate communication skills.<\/p>\n<p>PPPS. If you want to get started today in creating more intimacy, understanding, and open and honest communication in your relationship, I have two suggestions and some simple tools to help with relationships complex issues.<\/p>\n<p>1) the first is my e-book called \u2018STOP\u2026 In The Name of Love\u2019. Let me tell you in advance, I never claimed to be a great writer, I just claim to have some great information for turning your relationship around. This book may be the $19.95 you ever spent on your love life. Print it out and start reading it to each other tonight <a title=\"Compassionate Communication for Relationships ebook\" href=\"http:\/\/www.MagicRelationship.net\/ebook\">www.MagicRelationship.net\/ebook<\/a><\/p>\n<p>2) The second suggestion is a set of live recordings I did. There are three parts \u2013 the first is \u2018Stop Pushing Your Lover Away \u2013 5 Common Communication Mistakes\u2019 \u2013 the second is \u20184 Steps to Creating Almost Instant Intimacy \u2013 the third is \u20187 Keys To Building a Bright Future With Your Lover\u2019. This program is $97.00 and you will want to listen to it again and again. I have it on my ipod and still listen to it myself when I need a reminder. <a title=\"Relationship Interveiws\" href=\"http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/mp3\">www.MagicRelationship.net\/mp3<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>let me tell you a story about how this got started\u2026 &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;- THEY WERE STUCK! &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;- Bob and Sarah (names changed for confidentiality) are a very successful couple that work together as relationship coaches\u2026 \u2026so when they got stuck in the middle of a painful communication breakdown in their own relationship, they were frustrated, disappointed [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":187,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[334,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-989","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news","category-relationship-blog"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/989","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/187"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=989"}],"version-history":[{"count":3,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/989\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":991,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/989\/revisions\/991"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=989"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=989"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=989"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}