{"id":993,"date":"2011-10-02T21:07:09","date_gmt":"2011-10-03T04:07:09","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/?p=993"},"modified":"2011-10-04T06:20:32","modified_gmt":"2011-10-04T13:20:32","slug":"relationship-coach-gets-out-of-jail","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/relationship-coach-gets-out-of-jail\/","title":{"rendered":"Relationship Coach Gets Out of Jail&#8230;"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>This story is a little weird, but true&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nTHURSDAY AFTERNOON, THEY LET ME OUT OF JAIL&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br \/>\nNo kidding.<\/p>\n<p>Believe or not, I spent a good part of the Wednesday and<br \/>\nThursday behind bars. But hey&#8230; don&#8217;t worry; it\u2019s not what you<br \/>\nthink. I didn&#8217;t rob a bank, get a DWI or anything like that.<\/p>\n<p>And&#8230; it WASN\u2019T EVEN MY FAULT, really!<\/p>\n<p>It all started about 6 \u00bd years ago when the head of inmate<br \/>\ncounseling for the jail in Golden Colorado heard about what I do.<\/p>\n<p>I\u2019m not sure whether it was my work with \u2018at risk teens\u2019 for<br \/>\nthe Denver School District or my work teaching the \u2018Magic<br \/>\nRelationship Method\u2019 of compassionate communication to the<br \/>\nprofessors at Naropa University, or something else&#8230; but<br \/>\nsomething got his attention.<\/p>\n<p>What ever it was, he requested that I come in and teach my<br \/>\ncompassionate communication method to their counselors who have<br \/>\nthe VERY CHALLENGING job of communicating with upset and stressed<br \/>\nout inmates all day (and sometime all night) long.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nTHEY WERE VERY SKEPTICAL TO START WITH<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>So at the beginning of the class, the counselors were very<br \/>\nskeptical to say the least that this \u2018compassion communication<br \/>\ncrap\u2019 would work here. But once they saw the method in action,<br \/>\nthey warmed up to it. Some of them even got excited, seeing lots<br \/>\nof possible uses in their personal lives.<\/p>\n<p>Well midway through the training I got a little cocky and made<br \/>\nthe mistake of saying that this 4 step method was simple e nough<br \/>\nthat almost anyone can learn it and use it.<\/p>\n<p>And here is where it gets STRANGE&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nTHEY WANTED ME TO PROVE IT<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>They ended up loving this communication method but they wanted<br \/>\nme to prove it.<\/p>\n<p>They suggested we put it to the test! And what they suggested,<br \/>\nwell frankly, it scared the hell out of me.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<br \/>\nTHIS WAS WAY OUTSIDE OF MY COMFORT ZONE<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>They wanted me to teach my compassionate communication method<br \/>\nto prison inmates! The idea made sense, since most of life\u2019s<br \/>\nproblems are really just communication problems&#8230; and if you<br \/>\nteach someone new skills<\/p>\n<p>But, I had never worked with inmates before or taught in a jail<br \/>\nor prison (aside from the one time teaching all the co unselors).<br \/>\nThe truth I was feeling sick that day and not thinking straight<br \/>\nso I said okay&#8230; I will give it a try.<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t track how many people go though my classes, but I know<br \/>\nthat is been over a 1,000 inmates.<\/p>\n<p>By now you be saying to yourself&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br \/>\nOKAY, BUT WHAT THAT GOT TO DO WITH ME?<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p>Well earlier this week I sent an email to you about the<br \/>\nrelationships coaches who were stuck and came to me to learn \u2018The<br \/>\nMagic Relationship Method.\u2019<\/p>\n<p>If you didn\u2019t read it yet, you can get the rest of the story<br \/>\nat&#8230;<br \/>\n<a href=\"..\/relationship-coaches-need-coaching\/\" target=\"_blank\">magicrelationship.net\/blog\/relationship-coaches-need-coaching\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Anyway I got lots of response from people like you and one<br \/>\nquestion peo ple always ask is&#8230; \u201cMy situation is different, will<br \/>\nit work for me?<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nYES AND NO<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>The no first, \u2018NO\u2019 it won\u2019t work with everyone, every time, in<br \/>\nevery situation and get who ever you want to do everything you<br \/>\nwant. If it could do that, it would be called mind control.<\/p>\n<p>It\u2019s not a quick fix, a form of manipulation or another<br \/>\nBand-Aid that doesn\u2019t really work.<\/p>\n<p>It is a powerful form of communication that helps you get to<br \/>\nthe heart of the issue. It help people open up and talk honestly<br \/>\nabout what really going on.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nHere is the \u2018YES\u2019 part&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>If it will work in jail, for prison inmate&#8230; most likely it<br \/>\nwill work for you. I have now taught this communication method to<br \/>\nprison inmates for almost 7 years, I have taught both men and<br \/>\nwomen, anywhere from minimum to maximum security&#8230; and it works.<\/p>\n<p>By the way I have tons and tons of testimonials from the<br \/>\ninmates on my website, saying that this method helped them turn<br \/>\ntheir relationships, and their lives around.<\/p>\n<p>Oh yeah, this is a volunteer program, most of my day to work is<br \/>\nwith people like you, couples that still love each other but are<br \/>\nhaving communication problems that are ripping their relationship<br \/>\napart.<\/p>\n<p>So I know it works for couples that are willing to learn it&#8230;<br \/>\nand use it.<\/p>\n<p>But hey, don\u2019t take my word for it, let me help you prove to<br \/>\nyourself that the Magic Relationship Method will work for you.<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br \/>\nMY GIFT TO YOU&#8230;<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<\/p>\n<p>I want to thanks all the readers that gave me feedback about<br \/>\nthe \u2018Magic Relationship Method\u2019 and \u2018The Turning Point\u2019<br \/>\nrelationship coaching program and take the time to answer a few<br \/>\nof the most common questions that my readers have been asking.<\/p>\n<p>Since&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<br \/>\nI HATE to write, NO KIDDING!<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;<\/p>\n<p>I know this seams crazy because I have written two books on<br \/>\nrelationship communication, my relationship newsletter, and<br \/>\ncountless articles BUT I hate to write! It\u2019s true, I\u2019d rather get<br \/>\nmy teeth drilled on than write.<\/p>\n<p>I have dyslexia, add, can\u2019t spell to save my ass and as for my<br \/>\ngrammar, well it could sure use some help. And yet I don\u2019t know<br \/>\nhow to write a short email. Don\u2019t worry, I am going to figure it<br \/>\nout soon!<\/p>\n<p>&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;-<br \/>\nI WANTED AN EASY AND FUN WAY TO LEARN<br \/>\n&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211;<\/p>\n<p>All that said, I decided that the telephone is a much easier<br \/>\nand much more fun to answer your questions and introduce you to<br \/>\nthe Magic Relationship Method (compassionate communication for<br \/>\ncouples).<\/p>\n<p>Want to hear what everyone is so excited about and get your<br \/>\nrelationship questions and answered and listen in from the<br \/>\ncomfort and privacy of your own home?<\/p>\n<p>Here is what you do, click on this link, then enter your name<br \/>\nand email (I only send the call in details to people who request<br \/>\nit). Then check your email for details and a special Study guide<br \/>\nPDF.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"..\/..\/freecall\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/freecall<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Remember, when you get there, also type in your most pressing<br \/>\nquestion about relationships, intimacy and communication.<\/p>\n<p>Live with passion, purpose and possibility,<\/p>\n<p>Paul Sterling<\/p>\n<p>Your Relationship and Intimacy Coach<\/p>\n<p>PS. Let help you prove this communication method will work for<br \/>\nyou by answering your questions and show ing you how to put it to<br \/>\nthe test. Save your space today and then listen in on October<br \/>\n12th to this one hour call.<br \/>\n<a href=\"..\/..\/freecall\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/freecall<\/a><\/p>\n<p>PPS. I was once told &#8220;Transform the way you communicate and you<br \/>\ncan change your relationship with anyone.\u201d The problem was the<br \/>\nperson that told me this&#8230; didn\u2019t tell me how. I not trying to<br \/>\nget all mysterious on you but in a very short time, you can<br \/>\ndiscover the communication secrets it took me years\u00a0 and<br \/>\nthousands and thousands of dollars to uncover.<\/p>\n<p><a href=\"..\/..\/freecall\" target=\"_blank\">http:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/freecall<\/a><\/p>\n<p>I will cover these topics&#8230;<br \/>\n\u2022 Increase intimacy with your lover<br \/>\n\u2022 Clear up misunderstanding<br \/>\n\u2022 Turn breakdowns into breakthroughs<br \/>\n\u2022 Bring back that feeling of co nnection, understanding and<br \/>\nsupport<br \/>\n\u2022 Create open and honest communication<br \/>\n\u2022 Find out about your \u201cTURNING POINT\u201d and \u201cNEXT STEP\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>This story is a little weird, but true&#8230; &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8211; THURSDAY AFTERNOON, THEY LET ME OUT OF JAIL&#8230; &#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212;&#8212; No kidding. Believe or not, I spent a good part of the Wednesday and Thursday behind bars. But hey&#8230; don&#8217;t worry; it\u2019s not what you think. I didn&#8217;t rob a bank, get a DWI or anything like [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":187,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_active":false,"_monsterinsights_sitenote_note":"","_monsterinsights_sitenote_category":0,"footnotes":""},"categories":[334,1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-993","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-news","category-relationship-blog"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/993","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/187"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=993"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/993\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1004,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/993\/revisions\/1004"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=993"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=993"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.magicrelationship.net\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=993"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}